Perspective

 This week we talked a lot about perspective and how every member of a family reacts differently to  situations. The definition of perspective is "a particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view". I liked this definition because it not only includes the point of view of senone but it also includes attitudes and gives another part if the view. A lot of families with kids have an oldest, middle, and youngest. There are a lot of stereotypes that go into each role. Weather or not they are true it seems most people who are in the same position as other children tend to relate to each other. The oldest child can typically feel pressure to be the responsible or be an extra parent. The middle child are often those who feel more neglected or forgotten in the family. Younger children are typically seen as the favorite or seem to have an easier role in the family. For children like the oldest who feel they need to grow up quicker, it can cause them to feel cheated on a childhood later on. Having responsibility and helping out is no problem but when it comes to feeling that pressure of needing to be a perfect example and become another parent in a way can cause the child to grow up with a skewed view of not being good enough or having to be perfect. For the middle child sometimes feeling forgotten is a real feeling. I am a middle child and I can remember a few times were I wondered if I mattered as much as my other siblings and if people would notice if I was there or not. There was no reasons for me to feel this way but sometimes it just came as the older and younger children tended to get more attention. Younger children who typically had the view of being the favorite can also be known to be the lazy or more dependent kids. This can cause the kids to feel as if they wont be able to measure up to the rest of their family and sort of take that easier route. Not all of the aspects of birth order are negative, this just seems to be the most talked about no matter where you fall in your family. This is all from different perspectives of the family and the roles the children feel they need to take on. One example we talked about in class was a family our professor counseled while he was working in California. This family consisted of a Father who seemed very intimidating and even scary a mom who was playing constant middle man, and their daughter who was causing trouble and was hiding from her parents and their consequences. Every member of the family had different perspectives. They were conflicting so much because of the way they were viewing one another's actions and attitudes. Once they were able to talk about their differences and how they felt about how each other reacting different ways, they were able to come to a place where they understood each other better. Helping them better understand each other and looking at things from each others point of view, helped them to grow closer as a family and they became stronger than ever. Knowing how different situations and roles can effect our family members can give us a good start into helping them not fall into certain negative habits or feelings. Helping the family to be joined closer as one. 

Work Cited

https://www.lcsun-news.com/story/life/sunlife/2016/05/01/sibling-stereotypes-born-first-second-third-does-matter-maybe/82669998/